Kindness

The Kindness of Interaction

In each interaction, there is an exchange of energies. In exchanging energies, there is also, in speaking and communicating, an exchange of realities. There is also an agreed upon or common manufacture of perspective that is then viewed or experienced subjectively.

I talk of the energy experience now that is felt as emotions stemming from the solar plexus in most. In every interaction, there is always an exchange of emotion. When one is listening, one is giving, and when one is talking and being listened to, one is receiving,

Any interaction wherein the participants are liking each other has a positive result. Energies converge and produce synergy, where an open exchange of energy creates more for both. When there is a negative exchange, for example if you have a negative perception of the speaker, or if the content of what he is saying, or the delivery strikes you negatively, then there is a finite interaction. Energy comes from the listener, going to the speaker. If the listener shows disdain, or ignores the speaker, the speaker will feel the difficulty of speaking. Words will not flow as easily and will require more of his energy to carry on.

There are many ways to induce a particularly negative interaction. Here are common examples:

1. Listener judges negatively
2. Listener ignores
3. Speaker speaks in anger or hostility
4. Speaker correcting or belittling in content (by what they say)
5. Speaker asserting His or Her superiority (directly or indirectly harming the other’s personal view)
6. Speaker seeking pity (There is a point of healing where insight comes to the interaction on how things should be solved. If this point is passed and not expressed, the speaker is just conducting a personal drama in order to get energy from the listeners. Sadness, anger, and other emotions are not made to be long and arduous, but rather, just guideposts in how you feel and what to avoid or stop.)
7. Speaker ignoring feedback from listener

Most people will use what they feed their ego to control the situation. Some do it by establishing themselves as leaders of the clique and alienating others, some do it by being smart, rich, powerful or whatever they use to gain power. It is not their being powerful that draws energy negatively, but it is their not giving attention to others, thereby stopping the flow of energy or interaction.

In all these cases, there is a mild form of violence. I say this not so that we may be overly easy to take offense, but rather, so that we can consciously direct interactions toward a more positive bent.

They become the “center of attention” but more correctly, the “black hole” that sucks out energy from others. Some retaliate by ignoring also, or being angry and giving hurtful statements, and the cycle of negativity occurs, each entity trying to one up the other. In today’s society, this interaction is acceptable except in the company of friends, but this is temporary.

The eventual destiny is that every interaction is positive. Every person is a friend. Always, there will be things in common and different from one another, but there is in all of us, a core respect that must be acknowledged.

The conditions of positive interaction are:

1. Open respect for (at the least) and love for all present
2. Open minded learning from a perspective where all perspectives are to be listened to and evaluated free of personal prejudice and for its own content’s sake
3. Speaking for the listener, wherein your objective is to relate to the listener in a way that the listener will see and understand your perspective better

 

Simply put, any interaction where you hold yourself and everyone there in high esteem should work properly because there is common respect, that is the very least of love that we owe other children of God and co-creators of reality.

 

Knowing that we are all filled with the love of God allows us to transcend the visceral need to seek power in interactions.

 

Jesus says, when you leave offerings in the temple, leave it there, and be at peace with your brother first.

 

This means however, that you relinquish the need to satisfy your ego in every interaction. Your cup is full and overflowing with the love of God, that is why you have no need to take from others what little they have. That is why you can be free to share your love in each interaction.
True spirituality is kindness in action. One beautiful form of true prayer is the words you utter to your fellow men. Let your spirit shine in love for God in all that you do, and to all that you meet.

 

HARD ENCOUNTERS

 

When one encounters a recalcitrant soul who is angry, very sad or very disturbed, one can help them by first stopping them from needing so much energy by letting them know they are respected and loved. Imagine the following scenarios:

 

Guy 1 “ Why did you do that? You are a %*% …”

Inspired “I understand you are mad because it went out of our control. I am sorry for ____. Lets try to work out a solution”

Guy 1” what can we do now when you already messed it up..”

Inspired, “ You’re right, there isn’t much to do, but there is still a little we can try. I want you to feel how much I want to make it right..”

Guy1 “ well.. okay. So do this and this…

Inspired, ” Thanks. I’ll do that.”

There is no interaction that cannot be made perfect with love. Love soothes all hurts, it embraces all needs and satisfies us. One who bears love in all interactions is blessed and is a blessing.

This is not a giftedness of one, but a way of life, should you choose it.

 

Sometimes, spirituality comes from action, like just being courageous enough to smile. Sometimes it stems from changing one simple belief: that we are all equally blessed, equally loved, equally participating in this life. Wherever it may begin for you, nurture it, and let it grow into all the facets of your life.